STUDI PSIKOLOGI INDIGENOUS KONSEP BAHASA CINTA
(1) Universitas Dhyana Pura, Bali
(2) Universitas Dhyana Pura, Bali
(3) Universitas Dhyana Pura, Bali
(4) Institut Ilmu Kesehatan Medika Persada Bali
Abstract
Abstrak. Konsep bahasa cinta yang dicetuskan oleh Chapman telah dikaji sebelumnya melalui pengujian konsistensi internal dan relasi dengan variabel lain. Studi terdahulu berawal dari gagasan Chapman yang kemudian diujicobakan pada sampel penelitian. Penelitian ini sebaliknya bertujuan untuk melihat dengan perspektif grounded theory hal-hal yang membuat seseorang merasa dicintai. Penelitian ini juga hendak mencari bahasa cinta yang kontekstual melalui pendekatan kualitatif. Jurnal harian (n = 36) serta kuesioner diisi oleh partisipan (n = 400). Data yang diperoleh kemudian diolah dengan proses coding. Untuk mencapai kredibilitas data, penulis melakukan analisis saturasi data yang diperoleh. Hasil penelitian memperoleh tujuh hasil coding yang menunjukkan bahasa cinta partisipan yaitu quality time, words of affirmation, acts of service, physical touch, sacrificial love, karakter dan temperamen, dan perasaan. Teori awal yang terdiri dari lima bahasa cinta terdukung oleh hasil temuan ini. Akan tetapi, perspektif indigenous mampu menunjukkan adanya elemen unik dari bahasa cinta seperti perasaan dicintai saat pasangan melakukan pengorbanan.
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Abstract. Love languages, originally penned by Chapman, was studied through internal consistency and relationship with other variables examination. Previous studies stemmed from Chapman’s own idea and was tested on research participants. This research on the other hand aims to view love languages as a construct through grounded perspective. It investigated what makes people feel loved over qualitative method. A self-monitoring journal (n=36) and open-ended questionnaire (n=400) were filled by participants as data gathering technique. Data were processed through coding course. To obtain data credibility, authors analyzed data saturation. Results showed there were seven coding outcome: quality time, words of affirmation, acts of service, physical touch, sacrificial love,character and temperament, and feelings. Partly, original theory of love languages were confirmed by this findings. However, indigenous point of view exhibited unique element of feeling loved such as sacrifices.
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